I do not put my personal thoughts out here in cyberspace very often. Rarely do I write anything more than "fluff" about Paige and post pictures ,but today has not been a happy day. For those of us in the Vietnam adoption community we all knew something was going to happen, we have all heard the rumors for quite some time. I did not expect this though http://vietnam.usembassy.gov/adoption_warning0408.html
I truly had hoped somehow, someway these issues between the US and Vietnamese governments would be solved. I had hoped that if the Government of Vietnam decided to halt adoptions with the US they would at least try to match all the PAP's with their dossiers currently in the country with children.That unfortunately is not the case. As the document states, if a PAP is not matched by Sept 1st their case will be closed and sent back to their adoption service provider.I know of too many families who are now uncertain if their dreams of adopting a child from Vietnam will come true. The information that has come out in the news about corruption these past couple of days is very unsettling, it makes me feel ill. I don't know what to think. I believe that attention must be paid to the corruption that has been reported, not one child should be put in the hands of the Vietnamese provinces illegally, it is devastating. Another concern I have is that people be aware that not ALL adoptions out of Vietnam are corrupt. There are not many news reports about the hundreds and hundreds of adoptions that have been completed that were completely ethical. I believe in my heart our daughter came to our family ethically, but I only have the information we were given ...our little stack of documents that tell us how our daughter came to be a part of our family. I have to hold this in my heart as being truthful, we do not have reason to believe that it wasn't, do we know this 110%? no, but it is all we have. I am so sad for all the families with their hearts in limbo right now, so uncertain. My heart is breaking for the children, what circumstances are they facing? what will they suffer if the US agencies withdraw their humanitarian support? my heart was very heavy tonight as I watched my daughter drift off to sleep, my computer screen is blurry as I write this with tears in my eyes. I hope with all my heart that this will soon be resolved for so many children who truly need a family and families can be created through ethical, honest Vietnam adoption.
I truly had hoped somehow, someway these issues between the US and Vietnamese governments would be solved. I had hoped that if the Government of Vietnam decided to halt adoptions with the US they would at least try to match all the PAP's with their dossiers currently in the country with children.That unfortunately is not the case. As the document states, if a PAP is not matched by Sept 1st their case will be closed and sent back to their adoption service provider.I know of too many families who are now uncertain if their dreams of adopting a child from Vietnam will come true. The information that has come out in the news about corruption these past couple of days is very unsettling, it makes me feel ill. I don't know what to think. I believe that attention must be paid to the corruption that has been reported, not one child should be put in the hands of the Vietnamese provinces illegally, it is devastating. Another concern I have is that people be aware that not ALL adoptions out of Vietnam are corrupt. There are not many news reports about the hundreds and hundreds of adoptions that have been completed that were completely ethical. I believe in my heart our daughter came to our family ethically, but I only have the information we were given ...our little stack of documents that tell us how our daughter came to be a part of our family. I have to hold this in my heart as being truthful, we do not have reason to believe that it wasn't, do we know this 110%? no, but it is all we have. I am so sad for all the families with their hearts in limbo right now, so uncertain. My heart is breaking for the children, what circumstances are they facing? what will they suffer if the US agencies withdraw their humanitarian support? my heart was very heavy tonight as I watched my daughter drift off to sleep, my computer screen is blurry as I write this with tears in my eyes. I hope with all my heart that this will soon be resolved for so many children who truly need a family and families can be created through ethical, honest Vietnam adoption.
6 comments:
I too am heartbroken...we have waited for a referral for 18 months now and doubt we will make it in the next 4 months...the whole situation is sickening....
sad is right...what a terrible thing to happen to the families, but more importantly...to the children. ugh!
Thanks for your support and understanding. I know all our hearts are breaking for different reasons!
You are so right about the hundreds of adoptions that are completed that the news never reports about!
Yes, sad is so right. I can't get this off of my mind. It is just awful. I always thought in my heart that if we adopted one day, it would be from Vietnam. My heart aches for all of the waiting families and certainly for all those wonderful children.
This is a lovely post - thank you.
perhaps "lovely" is the wrong word. "heartfelt" might be more appropriate.
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